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New Domain

Alright lovelies… As some of you may know, I’m regularly working on website projects. Someday I’ll be a god at building websites among other things of course. So I’ve been paying for web hosting and I wanted my own blog (which I actually want people to see) to have the flexibility that you can’t really get from a hosted blog. And by now, I think I may have finally settled on a domain that I like. 🙂 I’ll try not to change it up again.

I’ve already moved all my posts and comments and such over to the new blog. Please update your bookmarks or whatever and keep visiting the new one! Thanks guys!!


Needing God.

I was pretty nervous about going to church today. Isn’t it funny how you can let things be blown way out of proportion? My new friend, Christina, was running late this morning so that was the perfect excuse for me not go in on time… 🙂 When she got there the worship service had just concluded, which might have been a blessing. Not that I don’t see the value in worship. I think it’s incredibly important, but perhaps it’s because of my background in the Mormon church that I’ve never been able to feel comfortable with the hands raised in the air, rockin out to Jesus thing. More than that, it seems like Christian worship music all sounds the same. That’s another discussion though… 🙂 Regardless, I didn’t have to deal with that today. I just had to go in and receive from God.

Right off the bat, the pastor said something along the lines of “Why would you want to walk with someone who doesn’t believe in you, who doesn’t support you, who isn’t interested in you…” and so on. The message was about developing a relationship with God and how so often we look at the failed relationships in our lives and reflect that on our relationship with God. So much of the message I felt was incredibly relevant to myself and I’m happy to say that I took a lot away from this experience.

What was on my brain before this even started was my relationship with this Church. When I heard this opening about “why would you want to walk with a person who isn’t interested in you” and so on, I related this to my experience in this church. I kept thinking, “EXACTLY” and “That is the VERY REASON I don’t want to be a part of this church”. The whole point is to walk with God right? So you use church to walk with other people who are walking with God. And why on earth would you want to walk with the type of people he’s talking about? Because those people are exactly who I saw.

And then towards the end of the service, the pastor invited all of his leaders to the front. He then invited members of the congregation who haven’t felt a close relationship with God to come forward to these leaders to be hugged and feel God’s love by proxy. Before I go any further, I want to clarify that I’m positive that from a different perspective this was a beautiful, spiritual thing that was happening and I admire those who went forward. I’m sure they did experience God’s love in that moment. But what I was seeing was one of my huge problems with the church staring me in the face.

This problem that I have stems from my experience with the hierarchy system in the Mormon church. At the most basic level, women don’t hold the priesthood (the power and authority to act in God’s name). So as a woman, in order for me to have God act in my life I would have to go through someone else. That is a power reserved only for men. And then from there, there is a sort of ranking system of holiness. Certain people who have higher callings in the church are given a different level of respect. This ranking system is absolutely present in the Christian church as well. I don’t believe that it stems from an evil place. I believe both groups have good intentions but get really caught up in working their way to the top.

What was staring me in the face was that after this message about getting a relationship with God for yourself, they were instructing members of the congregation that they still have to go through someone else to get it. Not only does it make it harder to have faith in your own ability to connect with God, but it separates these leaders from the normal people. This raises them up to being holier than you and therefore less likely to be able to come down to your level to have a sincere relationship. What really clicked for me today is that I’ve been right there and have that tendency to want to be that leader. I want to be “the most spiritual” or “the best Christian”. I realized that perhaps this is the reason I didn’t want to come back to church in the first place. Not because there were some people that weren’t so great to me, but because I didn’t like the person I was being in order to fit in or to have a place in the church.

Now I feel convinced that I do need church in my life, just not in the same way I thought I did. Looking back over the last few years, every time I’ve gone to church my heart has been softened, I’ve felt the love of God, and witnessed a powerful message. I haven’t been able to stay anywhere because I get so caught up in the politics of a church. I feel like something really important happened to me today. I know that I want to be regularly receiving a witness of God and that needs to be it. I don’t need to get involved in a specific church. I don’t need to and shouldn’t get involved in leadership. I need God and that’s it.

My first … Vlog???

So I’ve wanted to try a video blog for a long time, but let’s face it I don’t have super interesting things to talk about most of the time. Today however, I wanted to write a blog post about stuff that’s gone on with me this week and I was feeling far too lazy to actually type all of that out. Watch if you like or if you’re interested in what’s going on with me. 🙂




Laundry Day

It’s Laundry day. I haven’t been to a laundromat in forever, but I gotta admit they’re pretty cool. Since we haven’t gotten a washer and dryer yet we’ve been doing laundry at our parents house. Usually that translates to laundry day lasting literally all day. I can’t tell you how excited I am that by now all of my loads are almost half way done with their washing cycle. I know, I know… pretty amazing right? I live a pretty glamorous life. I’m thinking that the laundromat might just be the way to go for me for now. I don’t want to slam down several hundred dollars for nice new laundry machines, but I also can’t really trust ones I might find on craigslist. Perhaps I’m just in a particularly good mood this morning, but now I’m thinking that I need to own one of these businesses. I wonder how profitable a laundromat is… I want toown the type of business that pays for itself. You bet my laundromat would have wifi though.

Enough of that. It’s been such a long time since I’ve really wanted to blog. I’ve been working on getting some other things in my life in order. Jordan and I moved to a little house in Pasco. It was so generous for Jordan’s mom to let us live with her for the past year, but it was definitely time for us to have our own place again. I heard something recently that moved me, it goes something like this- When we aren’t taking care of ourselves financially, or when we rely on others for our day to day existence, it is really damaging to our self esteem. We were definitely contributing to the household there, but I think it’s pretty important for us to be able to rely on ourselves. That also came into play with myself personally because Jordan has been the only one of the two of us holding down a steady job for the last few months. As soon as we moved to Pasco, it was just the kick in the pants I needed to get back into the working stiff mode.

After not much searching at all, I got a job as a bartender. In a lot of ways, it’s been the best job I’ve ever had. So much more money than I’ve ever made and I love being on my feet all day. There are definitely some negatives to the job, so what I’m working on now is truly leaving work at work. That concept has been a particularly difficult one for me over the years. I tend to over analyze things from work and get myself so stressed out. I noticed myself doing this the other night. I’d gotten so worked up because I wasn’t confident about every single one of my decisions that I made. I let it get into my head to where I was getting so concerned that I was going to lose my job. I’ve come to the conclusion that all I can do is my best. I will do my best to make the right decisions for myself and for the company and if I don’t meet their expectations or the job doesn’t end up working out for me, then I know that I did the best I could and the rest was out of my hands. There’s no reason for me to get concerned with the what if’s.

I feel like a litle kid right now. These dryer’s are freaking awesome!!! So easily entertained. 🙂 Holy cow!! I’ve only been here for about an hour and all 7 of my loads of laundry are about done! This rocks!!!

I love you Charlie.

I just had a truly beautiful moment with Charlie. I’ve heard that new born babies don’t really smile, I maybe have seen a smirk or two out of this kid this entire week that we’ve been here. We’re leaving tomorrow morning at 6am and this was probably one of my if not my last opportunity to really hold him. I was sitting there feeling a little sad to be missing out on his growing up. They live hundreds of miles away. I didn’t want to let him go.

As I was sitting there cherishing these last moments with him in my arms and Charlie opened his eyes and looked up at me, then he tried for a little smile, stretching the corners of his mouth out to his sides for a split second. A moment later he tried again to smile, this time achieving a full blown wide mouthed, proudly gummed smile, looking at me straight in the eyes while I smiled back at him. I don’t really know how to describe it other than beautiful. I love you Charlie.

12 Totally Unique Christmas Trees

I can’t say that I’ve ever really gotten into the Christmas spirit since I moved out of my parent’s house. It blows my mind to see how some people get so intense about Christmas and Holiday decorating. It wasn’t until the other day when I saw a unique Christmas tree (the post-it note tree) that I thought maybe I could get into my own version of Christmas decorating.

Now I’ve just stumbled on some really creative, unconventional Christmas trees and I had to share. 🙂 I’m afraid I’ll probably have to wait until next Christmas to give one of these a try. Can’t wait to have our own place again!













Welcome Baby Charlie!

I have a new nephew! Poor Steph hasn’t had the easiest pregnancy and we got the call on Friday that she would be induced into labor that evening. Expecting a long labor ahead of her, we didn’t set out on our 12 hour journey to Utah until she gave us the call that her water broke.

Just three hours later, Charlie was born! My sister was a such a rockstar. I’m so impressed with her for not taking any pain killers at all. Luckily her labor went so fast.

It’s so crazy to see my little sister with a baby. Being witness to Steph as a new mother in the hospital was intense. All of the sudden it just hit me that I have two sisters with their own babies. It was like I realized that we’re growing up… for real. I had this moment where the last 23 years of my life flashed before my eyes and I knew that the next 23 years are going to just fly by.

Seeing my younger sister with a baby does make me think about having a baby myself. Obviously, I don’t have to decide today if I’m going to have kids, but whenever I do consider it, I just don’t feel ready. Mostly because I’m afraid that I’d be forced to give up on dreams that I have for myself. Of course the problem with that is that I don’t have much to show for accomplishing my dreams and goals thus far. More than anything, now I feel more motivated to live my life, get to work right away, and accomplish the things I want.

I’m so proud of my sister. She wanted to be a mom so bad and I already know she’s going to kick ass at it. My little nephew Charlie is amazing and it’s so exciting that I’m going to get to see him grow up.